16: How to Build Confidence

In this episode, I talk about the 10 steps you’ll need to follow (in any order) to build true self-confidence.


Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Minimal Minds Podcast. I’m your host, my name is Alex and today we’re going to be talking about how to build confidence. Feeling under confident seems to be a common epidemic that a lot of people struggle with today so I’m going to be guiding you through 10 simple steps on how to achieve self-confidence.

But first, we need to accurately define what confidence is, as well as some baseline truths that surround the concept of confidence. Now, looking on Google, it defines it as self-confidence as a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. Which sounds pretty accurate, but I’d like to expand upon this.

Having self-confidence is not necessarily feeling like you can do anything. It’s knowing that you can do anything given the right tools, education, and enough time. Here’s an example. I consider myself to be a confident person. And I feel confident in my ability to change a tire on a car. It’s something I’ve done before.

I know what’s involved. I know what tools I need. I know what to do and I know what not to do. That’s fine. But I do not feel confident in my ability to change out the suspension of a car, but I’m still a confident person. I am not confident about doing that because I’ve never done that before. So the most likely outcome of me trying that is something will go wrong.

But I know that if someone teaches me how to do it, and I try it out a couple times, and I get someone to look over what I’ve done, I’m confident I’ll be able to learn how to change out the suspension of a car. Nobody is born with confidence. Confidence comes from repeated success and experiences. Some people may naturally be more outgoing and because of that they have a lot more experiences than someone who is not naturally outgoing.

So they’re more confident in themselves as a result but they weren’t born confident. They became confident over repeated successes and experiences. Okay, so let’s get into the steps you’ll need to take in order to become more confident in yourself. Now, disclaimer, this is not easy. It’s going to take time and it requires you being uncomfortable.

If you do not experience discomfort, you cannot grow as a person. That is how confidence is formed and You have to attempt things that make you uncomfortable until it no longer makes you uncomfortable I have 10 steps for you and you don’t have to do them in order But the more you do the more progress you’ll see so number one is recognize and challenge a self doubt You’ve got to start by acknowledging your self doubt and negative self-talk and challenge those thoughts by questioning their validity and replacing them with positive affirmations instead.

Number two is set realistic goals. You need to set achievable goals that align with your current abilities, not with the abilities of your ideal self. Accomplishing these goals will boost your self-esteem and provide a sense of competence as you continue to improve in different areas. Number three is celebrate your successes.

Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they seemingly are. Recognizing your progress and giving yourself credit will reinforce a positive self-image, and it’ll make you feel better about yourself. The reason why a lot of overachievers have poor self-esteem is because they don’t acknowledge their achievements.

Regardless of what they do, they never feel like their accomplishments are good enough. Number four is to practice self-care. Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that promote relaxation. Exercise often. Eat nutritious foods. Prioritize sufficient sleep. That’s the big one.

You will perform things better when you’re in your best shape. Number five, this is the hard one. Face your fears. You need to step out of your comfort zone and confront your fears. Start with very small, manageable steps and gradually work your way up to harder things after each success. And each successful experience will enhance your self-confidence.

If you try something and you can’t do it, that’s half the battle. Learn from it and try again. Number six is to cultivate positive relationships. You need to surround yourself with supportive and positive individuals who believe in your abilities. Seek out mentors, friends, or family members who uplift you and encourage you and remove the people from your life who are consistently bringing you down in an attempt to raise their own self-esteem.

Number seven is embrace self-improvement. Continuously invest in personal growth and learning. Acquire new skills, expand your knowledge, and engage in activities that promote self-improvement, such as listening to my podcasts or reading my blog posts at theminimalminds.com. And if you’re listening to this, then you’re already doing this step.

So, good job. Number eight is to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and compassion and accept that mistakes and setbacks are just a natural part of life. Learn from them, forgive yourself, don’t beat yourself up, move forward. You will gain nothing from beating yourself up. Number nine is to adopt positive body language.

Be mindful of your body language as it can influence your self-perception and also how others perceive you. You gotta stand tall, shoulders back, maintain eye contact, project confidence through your posture and your gestures as well. And last but not least is to persist and persevere. Don’t stop moving forward.

Building self-confidence is a continuous process, so you have to stay committed even when faced with challenges or setbacks. Believe in your abilities and remain resilient in pursuing your goals, and soon you’ll become more confident in yourself than you ever thought you could be. Well, that’s everything for today’s episode.

To summarize the 10 tips I’ve just given you, number one is recognize and challenge self-doubt. Number two is set realistic goals. Number three is celebrate successes. Number four is practice self care. Five is face your fears. Six is cultivate positive relationships. Seven is embrace self improvement.

Number eight is practice self compassion. Number nine is adopt positive body language and number ten is persist and persevere. I hope you gained value from today’s episode and if you like my ebook titled the self development starter guide you can get for free by signing up to my self development newsletter at theminimalminds.com and if you want to support the show check out the link in the description. Thank you so much for listening and I will see you in the next episode.